During this powerful video, you’ll learn to take ownership as the author of your own life by assessing how you are thinking, overcoming limitations, conquering troublesome patterns, and creating and executing a new plan. You’ll get you tips on how to understand your relationship to your thoughts and to the world, and ultimately how you can create a positive and conscious life. Five Heartliving principles and over 30 suggestions will be shared to give your life an awesome rewrite!
Often, early on in new relationships the other person will treat you well. The person may compliment you, shower you with gifts, or be extremely considerate. The key to a person’s behavior, however, is how that person treats themselves and the world around them. Pay attention to the person’s behaviors or attitudes because most often people will eventually treat you as they treat themselves. Observe and ask yourself:
Is the person scattered or focused? —responsible or reckless? —inflexible or tolerant? —generous or selfish? —self-respectful or disdaining? —self-confident or arrogant? Or loving and kind to himself/herself?
The idea is that you can only truly love another person as much as you are able to love yourself. Be sure that the person loves and respects themselves and the world around them before entrusting that person with your heart. And you, too, must love yourself fully before you can love another.
On our soulful journeys, we are given many opportunities for partnership. It is through connection and vulnerability that we are able to experience real growth.
Do you have thoughts at this time that your life is just “too much”? Or that you simply don’t have the energy to do everything you need or have to do?
Often coaching clients will come to me who are stressed out, anxious, and “not seeing a way out” as they often put it. I’ve come to call the syndrome “the mountain of too much”!
As simple as it may sound, I often introduce clients to the concept and reality of “stopping.” As I point out to them, although it seems as though life has moved into “fast forward” rather suddenly; in fact, the person has most likely been living a life of “too much” for a long time. But like all mountains that we create, it isn’t until we reach our maximum point that we can no longer keep up the pace. It’s like putting one more item into a too-full drawer!
We have to remember that we are an integration of body, mind, and spirit. If we are exhausting our body, our mind, or our spirit–any one of these will affect the totality of who we are. Have you ever felt like a hamster on the wheel who has forgotten to get off?
So it’s helpful to figure out how long it’s been too much. It’s important to come up with a greater awareness of what you’ve been creating and where you’ve been investing your spirit. Is there space in your life for personal growth or nourishment? Often, when we realize how depleted we feel and not nurtured, we realize we have to look at the mountain we’ve created.
So, every day you can practice “stopping”—which is the act of doing nothing for a specific period of time (stopping)—I generally advise clients to do this for five minutes when they first attempt it.
Stopping for five minutes can be painful at first. So often with our multi-tasking, the act of stopping feels like wasting time. So be careful not to associate the “stopping” space with “wasting time,” “not getting something done,” and so on. Instead, by holding consciousness in the space in which you are still, you can begin a process of internal uncluttering. Stopping can be powerful because it requires that you be alone with yourself. It allows you to see yourself much more clearly and to remember over time who you really are. In other words, slowing down allows you to see the mountain you are climbing.
To practice “stopping,” simply set aside five minutes a day to do absolutely nothing but pause and reflect, to breathe. Find a refuge—the bathroom if you have kids! Yes, I know they’ll knock, so wait until they go to bed. But do find the time and space. During that period of stopping, remain silent, do nothing—absolutely nothing but pause and reflect—and see what happens. Continue this every day, and you will become more and more able to do it. Over time, you will remember important things about yourself.
Stopping will allow you to restore balance and energy to your weary spirit. It may cause you to feel sad, relieved, or even angry. Releasing the feelings within you is a beginning toward mindful living.
Sometimes, when we refuse to allow ourselves stopping points, our bodies make them happen for us. We develop migraines, colds, the flu—ways of making our bodies stop.
Instead, commit to conscious moments in which you stop and do nothing. It is then that you will really be doing something!
I’m excited to announce the launch of my first Heartliving Webinar, Being the Best You.
The focus of this webinar is to evaluate how you are participating in the world, and what you might do to improve the quality of your life. Five Heartliving principles along with over 30 powerful suggestions will be covered to help you become the best YOU!
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You were born a child of pure potential and possibility.
So, what does that mean? . . . You can influence the outcome of this play you’re starring in called “Life”! You see, each of came in to this world to participate in each other’s dramas, and in doing so, to advance the growth of each other’s souls. We participate by learning life lessons together.
So if you came into this world to learn the value of forgiveness, for example, then surely you’ll have to have someone to forgive. And, if you came in to learn how not to give away your power, then surely someone will have to try to take it. And if you came in to learn how to be more independent, then you may find yourself in a situation where you are all alone, so that you can learn how to depend upon yourself.
So you see, all our life challenges are here for each of us to overcome, to learn, and to grow. And here’s the good news: your script involves a lifetime of days.
You know, sometimes I have had clients tell me that they feel like they’ve screwed up their lives and have no way to “course correct.” So I remind them that every day is but a sacred dot on the map of their lives. Each new scene affords them a new opportunity. Every day that you wake up and get back on life’s stage, you have a new chance to respond differently this time, to create a new outcome. –Because NOW it can be different.
It’s also very important to remember that all cast members (family, friends, even seeming enemies) are souls just like you seeking to learn and heal, and one of the most important ways you can learn and heal is by delving deeper into your own heart’s consciousness. You can begin to use your heart as your compass and to embrace the value and power of love, kindness, compassion.
NOTE: I created a YouTube video on this very topic to give you hope; it is at my YouTube Channel: HeartlivingVideo. The title? “Up Until Now” The link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZFdo1zvqx_M
Did you know that the negative beliefs of fear, worry, doubt, and judgment are among the strongest thoughts that rob you of manifesting your desires? So whatever is going on in your life, it’s important to remain as positive about your circumstances as possible. Of course, the real benefit of being positive is that it will attract positive experiences to you.
Now, how can you become more positive and overcome limitations? Here are a few things you can do . . . .
1. Adopt the attitude that everything that happens to you in life happens for a good reason: just think “Everything happens for the best.” I grew up in a family where that was instilled in me, but I know many of us did not have that belief instilled. Yet you can certainly change your thinking right now to reflect this simply by deciding if it feels true for you now.
2. Decide that you can learn something from every experience. So whatever has happened has taught you lessons and now you are wiser and can choose differently next time.
3. Open up to new possibilities while not getting stuck in old ways. Things don’t have to remain fixed. Just because something has always been a certain way, it doesn’t mean it has to remain that way. Remember my YouTube video “Up Until Now” because you can do it differently now.
4. Check to see if you are thinking and living in terms of limitations or if you are living in terms of possibilities. When you live in terms of possibility, you allow yourself to dream and particularly to dream about your new life or new circumstances. How often do you do that? It is possible to daydream, create, and live a new possibility.
So if you want to make something new happen in your life, assume that it is possible, hold the most positive outlook about it, and allow yourself to dream. Then anchor those dreams into new words and new behaviors and create new circumstances. You do have the power to change yourself!
I’m excited to share that my second Heartliving Webinar, Give Your Life an Awesome Rewrite, is available for purchase!