We formed our core relationship with ourselves and with life in early childhood based on the messages we received, the trauma we may have suffered, and the role modeling of the adults around us.
Co-dependent behavior (feeling the need to be connected to someone else in order to survive) is a pattern often developed in childhood to help a person to survive. Staying strongly connected to and/or attempting to control your caregivers may have been the only way you could feel safe.
This behavior may play out in your adult life as a need to feel connected to another person and a feeling that without that connection you may not survive. This may cause you to sacrifice your own growth in order to feel safe. It may cause you to feel the need to “please” people in your life in order to be approved.
As adults, we grow to understand that we are the only one who can “rescue,” truly approve, or reliably care-take ourselves. While there may be an Inner Child in us seeking love and care, we learn that there is an Inner Adult whom we can also develop who is capable of caring for us. In fact, we can contribute to the development of our Inner Adult by challenging the way in which we feel dependent upon others to meet our needs and by building our self-esteem.
This Inner Adult is a part of you that is capable of thinking well, stays in touch with reality, and is able to make wise choices by estimating the probability of consequences of certain acts. How do you strengthen your Inner Adult?
Learn to trust and respect yourself. You can “course-correct” at any time by acting responsibly for your own life.
Value yourself. Accept your desires for what they truly are and ask for what you need, not only from yourself but from others in your relationships.
Maintain healthy boundaries. Do not under-function or over-function in your relationships with others.
Enjoy spending time alone. Understand that being “alone” does not mean “lonely”; in fact, the word “alone” is derived from two words “all one.” You can feel complete when alone.
Remind yourself of the times in which you cared well for yourself. Celebrate your successes in the past and look forward to standing by your own side now and in the future.
Give yourself your own approval. Ultimately, you teach others how to treat you through your own behavior toward yourself.
Do you allow yourself to make “mistakes” realizing that we are all here to learn? Does your value as a person depend on what others think of you? Do you have trouble asking for favors and tend to apologize a lot?
Self-esteem can be defined as people’s overall evaluation or appraisal of themselves and their own self-worth. What influences this self-appraisal?
Each of us is born into a culture or set of shared ideas about our nature of reality and of right and wrong. Our learned beliefs can be empowering and encouraging, or they can be limiting. Most often, we go through life without challenging these beliefs.
As children, we are often taught to find meaning through attachments to others. While this can create relatedness to others, it can also encourage dependency and emptiness when alone.
There is also a cultural standard of beauty and acceptability that causes us to become conscious of how we look. Even though these standards are really artificial beliefs, we take them in as fact and usually apply them to ourselves.
Critically important to your self-esteem is not to retreat into a comparison of yourself based on societal standards. In fact, most people who have manifested their heart’s desire have NOT relied upon the need to fit the norm or to confine to others’ comfort zones.
Here are some tips for building self-esteem:
Be able to speak of your accomplishments and shortcomings with honesty, knowing that you are worthy just as you are.
Practice both giving and receiving with a level of comfort.
Be more spontaneous and trusting of your opinions and abilities.
Have integrity–walk your talk–be harmonious with what you say and do.
Be open-minded about new ideas and experiences.
Accept other people where they are, especially when their thoughts and behaviors don’t match yours.
Laugh at yourself and others with grace. Humor will relax you so that you can be more the “real” you, and above all, you can enjoy this precious lifetime!
Join me for this inspiring day! This one-day information-packed workshop will be held 9:00 a.m. – 4:30 p.m. on Saturday, April 29, 2017, at the Virginia Beach Resort Hotel & Conference Center on the Chesapeake Bay.
During this session you will learn new concepts about accessing and working directly with your intuition. Through lecture about important universal information, exercises, tools (to include a beautiful Chakra Quartz Pendulum), and hypnotherapy to “enhance your intuition,” you will learn:
Basic Ideas and Principles of Intuition;
Exercises to Test Your Ability to Predict Outcomes and to Understand Your Own Strengths;
Ways to Determine Your Personal Intuitive Symbols;
Techniques for Enhancing Your Intuition and Quieting Your Mind to Access Intuition over Fear;
How to Create and Use a “Diagnostic Room” in Your Mind;
Participation in Hypnotherapy to Solidify the Room in Your Mind – to impress it for future reference;
Ways to Awaken to the Power of Synchronicity and to Being in Flow;
Understand “Dream Incubation” – how to let a solution emerge through a dream; and much more!
Program Fee: $165 (includes course materials, supplies, and food).
Conference space is limited. Your paid registration ensures that a space is held for you.
Sleep is vital to our well-being, allowing us to remain healthy mentally as well as physically. Have you experienced difficulty with sleep patterns? Wondered how to handle insomnia?
I worked with a dream analyst for seven years and learned so much about not only the power of dreams and how to interpret them, but the importance of getting sound sleep!
Sleep requirements (the number of hours a person needs each night) are very individual, but research has shown that people who get 7-8 hours of sleep per night have less chance of having high blood pressure, heart disease, as well as anxiety and depression, among other health issues.
Our sleep patterns do change as we get older. For example, an infant needs 16-18 hours sleep in a 24-hour period, perhaps for growth and development. A teenager often sleep 7-10 hours which is believed to be needed for hormonal changes. The average adult needs 7-8 hours, yet as people get older this gets less.
A good night’s sleep usually restores you–body, mind, and spirit–and provides numerous benefits to keep your body healthy:
Better concentration and mood
Enhanced immune system and improved health
Increased energy levels.
How, then, can you influence your chance of having a good night’s sleep? Here are a few tips:
Create an inviting space: the right temperature; comfortable mattress, bedding, and pillows; proper lighting (dark is best);
Create a helpful evening ritual to wind down: a warm bath with a few drops of lavender oil can be calming; listening to soft, relaxing music (certain music is designed to induce sleep);
Avoid caffeine and alcohol late in the evening or eating spicy foods since this is known to affect sleep rhythms; drink a cup of milk instead (it contains tryptophan which helps you become sleepy);
Exercise and eat well each day since that contributes to a healthier body and better sleep patterns!
A good night’s sleep helps you keep our body at its healthiest. If you have tried these suggested steps or others, and still have difficulty, seek medical help in discovering what you can do to change your patterns and achieve a sound and consistent night’s sleep.
The skin is a filter between the inner and outer worlds of the body. Detox baths are an inexpensive and effective method of cleansing and helping the body rid itself of toxins.
Using hot water is considered most effective since the heat and steam increase the sweat and open the pores, allowing toxic sweat to readily exit the skin. (Of course, if you are ill, or have high blood pressure or experience dizziness, nausea, or weakness due to hot water, you would adjust the temperature or get out of the bath immediately. Use common sense and consult a physician if necessary.)
Types of Detox Baths:
Epsom Salts: This is a great bath to relax tired muscles and to detox the body. The magnesium content helps relax muscles while the sulfur component aids in detoxing. The recommended amount to use in an average tub varies, but most recommend a half-gallon box of Epsom Salts to a tub of water.
Apple Cider Vinegar: Vinegar helps increase blood supply to the skin. Raw apple cider vinegar is recommended (not distilled, white vinegar). Use 1/4 cup to 1 cup per bath.
Baking Soda: This helps restore the acid/alkaline balance of the skin. A baking soda bath is very helpful in healing skin irritations or drying any rash. Use 8 ounces of baking soda per bath.
Ginger Root: Ginger helps stimulate the body to sweat and draws toxins to the skin’s surface. Use a half-inch of fresh ginger root (usually found in the produce aisle). Place the root in a pan of about 2 cups of water and bring to a boil. Turn off heat and steep for 30 minutes; remove the root and pour the liquid into the bath water.
Herbal Tea: Particularly effective in the bath are catnip, peppermint, chamomile, horsetail, and yarrow. Use one cup of the brewed tea per tub of water. Generally use only one herb at a time. Each herb can be researched for its healing and stimulating properties.
Oatmeal: This is a wonderful bath for any type of skin irritation (insect bites, poison ivy) since it soothes the skin. Add a cup of oatmeal (flakes or ground) to your bath water.
You can take a detox bath 1-3 times per week or as needed. Before, during, or after the bath, drink 8 ounces of pure water to hydrate the body. Make this a soothing ritual that you enjoy. Light candles and relax!
Money is energy that has been directed by human thought and consciousness for thousands of years. Over time money has become associated more with power than with a divine connection. Because of this, it is often a source of conflict and strife. The greatest problems in most marriages involve money, and the greatest motivation for crime is money.
We have translated the symbol of money with a connection to power and scarcity which, in turn, drives negative thoughts and behaviors.
By reconnecting money with the power of the Divine and the metaphysics of abundance, we can alter our relationship not only to money but to each other.
The American dollar bill is laden with the symbolism of the sacred:
Above the word “one” is the phrase “In God We Trust.”
To the right is a circle with the American Eagle, the secular symbol of our nation.
On the left is another circle with a pyramid and an eye replacing the point of the pyramid. This is called “The Eye of Horus” which in ancient Egyptian mythology was the “all-seeing eye of God.”
Above the pyramid are the Latin words, “Annuit Coeptis” which means “He has favored our undertakings.”
Below the pyramid are the Latin words, “Novus Ordo Seclorum,” or “New Order of the Ages.”
As you can see, every dollar bill that moves through our hands is sacred energy. An important step is to study your views and attitudes about money. The way you handle money is a mirror for the way you handle other forms of energy in your life. Your intentions and your integrity harness the energy of money.
Be sure to align money with your higher values, e.g., love, truth, honor, compassion. As you express the higher qualities you think more money will give you, radiating those qualities outward with your words, actions, and being, you will become magnetic to money and objects that are physical expressions of your new level of consciousness.
We formed our core relationship with ourselves and with life in early childhood based on the messages we received, the trauma we may have suffered, and the role modeling of the adults around us.